We have all heard those stereotypical things people say to pregnant women. When pregnant with Chloe, I was fortunate to have avoided those type of comments. Lately it seems that’s all anyone can think to say to me. As of today, I am 29 weeks pregnant. Based on people’s reactions when I tell them how far along I am, I apparently look about 40+ weeks pregnant. I should say first, said people asked how far along I was. Complete strangers who think its okay to respond with lines like this:
“Wow, you’re really big!”
“Are you sure you’re not having twins?”
“You look like you’re ready to pop!”
“I bet your feet hurt…” (this one comes paired with the “whoa dude, you’re huge.” look)
At first I responded kindly, but I am now at the point where I believe rude comments deserve a rude response. I’m not a mean person, being anything but super sweet to people is usually difficult for me. Pregnancy has brought out an incredibly sarcastic side of me I never knew existed. Here are a few of the things I’ve said to complete strangers here lately. (I’m not proud of this, but feel it necessary to share how hormones can affect an otherwise kind person)
“Ya, well, I really love food. I just eat whatever the heck I want all day long. Eat, eat, eat.”
“I decided before I got pregnant to go big or go home. I’m seeing how much weight I can gain. Because it’s fun for me.”
“Thanks. That’s the nicest thing anyone has said to me all day. I love hearing I’m huge. Really makes me smile.”
“I’m not even pregnant. I just REALLY love to eat. I’m so tired of those skinny people on the covers of magazines. I’m bringing chunky back.”
For the life of me I will never understand why anyone thinks a woman wants to hear something like that? We are simply not wired to respond well to any comment regarding our weight. Skinny people deal with the same issue. No female wants to hear anything but positive feedback regarding their appearance.
When my Sister was pregnant she frequented the same nail salon. One day about halfway through her pregnancy she went to get a pedicure. The nail tech said “wow you get really fat since last time I see you” Really, lady?!! Really?! How do you respond to that? I wish she would have said something to the effect of “I also got incredibly stingy with my money since my last visit, so you will not be receiving a tip today.” I feel mean typing that. See?! It’s a vicious cycle. Someone says something rude, I respond rudely, I feel bad.
My Sister and I are the first to admit that we aren’t “cute” pregnant. Our noses inflate, our hips expand, cellulite forms, we can’t get our foundation makeup to match our skin, we usually have an influx in breakouts and the list goes on.
Simply put, we need nothing but positive remarks when it comes to our outward appearance.
I realize there are times when comments just come out, and people do not necessarily mean to hurt your feelings. For those instances, I totally understand. But regarding the careless comments coming from strangers here lately, not cool.
This seems to be an epidemic.