We have all heard those stereotypical things people say to pregnant women. When pregnant with Chloe, I was fortunate to have avoided those type of comments. Lately it seems that’s all anyone can think to say to me. As of today, I am 29 weeks pregnant. Based on people’s reactions when I tell them how far along I am, I apparently look about 40+ weeks pregnant. I should say first, said people asked how far along I was. Complete strangers who think its okay to respond with lines like this:
“Wow, you’re really big!”
“Are you sure you’re not having twins?”
“You look like you’re ready to pop!”
“I bet your feet hurt…” (this one comes paired with the “whoa dude, you’re huge.” look)
At first I responded kindly, but I am now at the point where I believe rude comments deserve a rude response. I’m not a mean person, being anything but super sweet to people is usually difficult for me. Pregnancy has brought out an incredibly sarcastic side of me I never knew existed. Here are a few of the things I’ve said to complete strangers here lately. (I’m not proud of this, but feel it necessary to share how hormones can affect an otherwise kind person)
“Ya, well, I really love food. I just eat whatever the heck I want all day long. Eat, eat, eat.”
“I decided before I got pregnant to go big or go home. I’m seeing how much weight I can gain. Because it’s fun for me.”
“Thanks. That’s the nicest thing anyone has said to me all day. I love hearing I’m huge. Really makes me smile.”
“I’m not even pregnant. I just REALLY love to eat. I’m so tired of those skinny people on the covers of magazines. I’m bringing chunky back.”
For the life of me I will never understand why anyone thinks a woman wants to hear something like that? We are simply not wired to respond well to any comment regarding our weight. Skinny people deal with the same issue. No female wants to hear anything but positive feedback regarding their appearance.
When my Sister was pregnant she frequented the same nail salon. One day about halfway through her pregnancy she went to get a pedicure. The nail tech said “wow you get really fat since last time I see you” Really, lady?!! Really?! How do you respond to that? I wish she would have said something to the effect of “I also got incredibly stingy with my money since my last visit, so you will not be receiving a tip today.” I feel mean typing that. See?! It’s a vicious cycle. Someone says something rude, I respond rudely, I feel bad.
My Sister and I are the first to admit that we aren’t “cute” pregnant. Our noses inflate, our hips expand, cellulite forms, we can’t get our foundation makeup to match our skin, we usually have an influx in breakouts and the list goes on.
Simply put, we need nothing but positive remarks when it comes to our outward appearance.
I realize there are times when comments just come out, and people do not necessarily mean to hurt your feelings. For those instances, I totally understand. But regarding the careless comments coming from strangers here lately, not cool.
This seems to be an epidemic.
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I’m 40 1/2 weeks pregnant right now and I totally know how you feel! When I was around 30 weeks all people could say to me was how big I was/are you having twins/ect. Then about 36 weeks, it totally flip flopped. All of the sudden no one could believe I was having a baby in a month. People are so crazy! Right now I’m dealing with all the “you’re still here?!” and “still no baby?!” comments all day at work, sometimes multiple times from the same person! It is really tempting to respond with “Oh yeah, I had her but decided just to leave her at home.” Sad that no one has a clue how annoying and hurtful their comments can be sometimes! Hang in there!
LoL I forgot about the end of pregnancy questions
thanks Emily!
Having severe nausea and vomiting throughout my entire pregnancy with both of my children I didn’t gain much weight. With my 2nd I only gained 1 pound. At about 34 weeks while at the park a woman, and mother, came up and asked how much longer I had. When I said 6 weeks or less she looked at me shocked and said, “Are you sure?” ‘Yes, I’m sure.’ “Have you been to a doctor? I mean is there something wrong with the baby that you’re that little? Have you had an ultrasound done? Surely everything can’t be normal for you to still not have gained any weight.” Such reassurance from strangers….
Oh goodness gracious… I don’t even know how I would’ve responded to that.
This is outrageous!!! I just had this conversation last week about make up… so what if i decide one day I would prefer to go all nat-ur-al. I shouldnt have to hear oh wow are you feeling ok? you look super tired. etc. The audacity of people to say things amazes me, but I LOOOVE your new responses!
Thanks Kendel
No makeup days are so relaxing..well, when you don’t have people asking you what’s wrong lol
I was 38 weeks prego with my first, and was standing in line at Wendys. The girl in front of me glances over, drops her jaw, and comes at me with both arms outstretched, saying, “You are HUGE!” I was flabbergasted, and just stepped back out of reach. I didn’t know what to say, but I should have chewed her out.
I’m pregnant again, and am already dreading those foolish, ridiculous comments.
LoL! I hope she felt incredibly stupid for that… Who does that?!
First of all, congrats on your bump. I heard all the same ole crap comments you’re hearing. I was really big and showed really early. It is no fun. The “twin comment” was the one I heard the most…bugged me!
Thank you!
Love all the comments above. I too am pregnant with our 3rd boy. There have been many comments about having 3 boys. But about my size, the checkout Guy at Target asked, “Do you really think that will fit?” when I was buying a newborn outfit. I didn’t have the heart to tell him I had 9 more weeks to go. I will try to find the same checkout guy at 39 weeks & see what he says
Oh wow, that would have set me off..
Ahh those comments. About 2 weeks after having my second baby I had a very insensitive woman tell me that I should really do something about my stomach because it shouldn’t still balloon out that way after giving birth. I was absolutly dumbfounded. I already have major hormonal changes taking place causing “baby blues” I don’t need to be reminded of the baby weight that still lingers!!!! It’s like certain people just can’t help themselves.
OMG I would have cried my eyes out and maybe slapped her? Depending on my hormonal state. How rude!
I had a T-Shirt made that said “Yes, I’m pregnant! No, I don’t care about what ever you think you have to say!” It usually worked. While pregnant with my second daughter, I was walking with my oldest in the supermarket and an old lady approached us, pinched my daughters cheeks and rubbed my belly. THAT?S ENOUGH! I pinched her cheeks and rubbed her belly. She just stood there, surprised, as I kept on walking. I don’t think she’ll ever do that again.
I am sure you look beautiful and glowing! Have an amazing day!!!!!
Bahahahahaha that’s awesome
I had just the opposite problem – at 29 weeks I was still wearing regular clothes and didn’t look pregnant at all. I was in a car wreck and when I told the EMS guy that I was 7 months pregnant he just looked at me at said “Are you sure”? Really, buddy? My son was born by emergency Csection a few hours later, so I never was able to “look pregnant”. Enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can . . . and keep the sarcasm coming! I think it’s funny!
Nope, just kiddin’! Thought it’d be funny to pretend I’m 7 months pregnant. EMS they should know better. A little more sarcasm for ya lol You and my Sister are possibly the only two people on this planet that think I’m funny. For that, I love you!
Oh My Gosh! I had twins the first time. I was very young and small framed. Well people guessed pretty quickly that there was 2 in there. People used to say things like, wouldn’t it be wierd if they were conjoined? Is one just a shadow?Is one going to be the evil twin. The creepiest were a couple of men saying, Whoa, that’s going to be a tight squeeze, your not very big! Seriously!!! THEN of course your body doesn’t go back to normal the week after having twins via C Section. So there is the whole thing of people thinking your like 4 months pregnant for a couple of months, hard to deal with when you have a husband asking you when your going to go back to normal. And going through the baby blues. Yeah.. He’s an ex husband now LOL.. AAAAAHHHHH people, unless its a comment of pure adoration… SHUT UP. I totally get you and you know what, I send you hugs and you are very much justified to make them feel stupid. Perhaps you are sparing the next pregnant lady the embarrassment of thier stupid comments. She may not have the same support system that you have.
Why, people!? Why! LoL Seriously. I very much appreciate the hugs and encouragement, thank you!
I just had my 3rd baby… and even worse than comments durring pregnancy is all the crap people say after. Does everyone assume it’s EASY to lose baby weight when you have to sit and hold the baby all day?
Oh girl! I’m praying I don’t have to have a c-section.. It ain’t easy. Showering becomes something you have to schedule ,lol, let alone exercise. My brother was sweet enough to set his wedding date 2 months post baby. I will not be emotionally stable enough to handle any “when are you due?” comments. I will cry. I will cry much.
People never cease to amaze me! I am usually a ‘nice’ person or try to be but I too am surprised at what people will dare say to complete strangers. Unless someone is obviously pregnant, I don’t even go there (don’t want to get into that kind of a situation! Ha!) Babies are a true blessing, but we all know that all blessings aren’t always announcent with a bright star, angels and wise men!
Having had my share of less than kind comments, I always try to say something nice or nothing at all.! I am sure that you are beautiful. Enjoy every second of your pregnancy, because even these days go by too fast. My children are now 25 and 30.
You’re sweet
It has gone by super fast! It’s those moments when random lady pushing our groceries to the car at the commissary tells me how big I am that things tend to slow down a bit lol 
I think you will find this you tube video to be really funny: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzPMFafAV20&feature=youtu.be it’s all the stupid things people say to pregnant women.
Oh my goodness that was hilarious
Thanks for the giggle! I totally forgot about the “dog name” thing! Happened to us with at least 3 possible names this time lol
Oh goodness. I’m in the same stinking boat right now. If I hear “You’re about to pop anyday now”, “You better sleep now because when that baby gets here you won’t sleep EVER” (<–this one really bothers me. uhm sure. let me go ahead and sleep all day every day now so I can throw a few "sleep coins" into my sleep bank and use them like chuck-e-cheese tokens when the baby gets here. really.) or "ARE YOU BREASTFEEDING?!?! BREAST FEEDING IS BEST YOU KNOW' I may seriously spontaneously combust or spout off some terribly rude comment in response that'd make my grandma shake her head up in heaven!!! Lord have mercy on all of us pregnant folk. If people feel compelled to say anything at all..why can't they just say hey congrats, and leave it at that?
Hang in there mama…I am SURE you look freaking FANTASTIC!!
xoxo
Sarah
LoL Love the “sleep coins” thought! You are hilarious and also very sweet, but I do not look fantastic hahaha at least I don’t feel like I do
Thank you for the laugh!
There are so many bloggers and moms who CLEARLY tell people that these things are a huge NO-NO to say to pregnant people…yet some people STILL don’t get it!!! I haven’t been lucky enough to get knocked up yet, but I have a feeling I will be immune to a lot of schnasty comments because I’m naturally a little…”chunky.” Going up to a cute skinny pregnant girl is way different than going up to a fatty and being like “OMG YOU’RE HUGE!!!” LOL
Oh my goodness April you crack me up! I was by no means small when I got pregnant, and have quickly gained quite a bit of weight. I wouldn’t feel comfortable walking up to me saying those things
When I was prego with my first, a guy at work said to me, “your baby will be well fed!”. Mind you, this was a guy I didn’t know well at all. I was already so self conscious of my huge boobs, so I went sobbing to the bathroom. Stupid people.
Rude. That is just plain rude. I’d like to slap him for you
My precious husband made the “truck backing up” sound while I was doing something during my first pregnancy. Yeah, I balled right then and there, and believe me, during my second pregnancy he was on his best behavior! It is funny how I can look back and laugh about it now. No laughing then!
this one has made me laugh over and over, my Husband would so do something like that thinking he’s hilarious… Only to find me in the fetal position (as much as you can be with a baby bump) crying hysterically in the corner
People drive me crazy. Those comebacks are so funny. *hugs*
I don’t really remember any comments that stuck out with my first. With my second though my brother’s ex g/f said I looked much bigger this time. I’m still a bit confused by this one since I was never around her when I was pregnant with my first.
A childhood friend wasn’t sure if I was pregnant or just fat with my second. I was about 5 months where you might look pregnant or I just might might be getting fatter.
Jennifer, this furthers my thought that some people simply speak without thinking…
Here’s one I still can’t believe…I was close to due date and pretty ginormous…but worse off, my belly button stuck out like a small bump on my large baby bump…I’m in the elevator of a hospital (because my sister had just delivered her baby) when a man I don’t even know says, “looks like the turkey’s done…the little popper has popped out” Really?!
OH my! Wow. What do you even say to that?