I think it’s safe to say we are all on a constant journey to find the perfect balance. I know my friends and I discuss it quite frequently, but it wasn’t until I was watching “Bethenny Ever After” last night and heard Rachel Raye say something that I really understood it’s not just me. I have an addiction to reality television, don’t judge me 🙂 Anyhow, Bethenny is asking Rachel how she manages to juggle everything and she replies with, “I don’t, it is what it is” She went on to say that sometimes they eat dinner at midnight because that’s when they can. AND here’s the kicker, she’s totally ok with that. That’s her life and she loves it! How about that? Who’s standards am I trying to keep up with anyway? If it were my own I wouldn’t feel so guilty about spending too much time working, or not taking my daughter to play enough, or her diet not being exactly stellar all the time. Maybe I should be alright with working when I need to work and playing when I have time to play? We have a very happy life and a healthy family, what am I so worried about? I’m not going to go off the deep end and abandon my duties as a Mom and Wife all together, I’m confident in that. So why keep torturing myself with guilt?
It was at this point that my daughter asked to have a dance party, so I got up from writing this and we danced to the clean version of “Forget You”. It’s her current favorite song, and I can’t help but laugh until I have tears in my eyes watching her wiggle her little 3 year old booty to it.
God has a funny way of slapping you in the face with answers, and it just so happens I’ve been praying to find that perfect balance lately. So last night He speaks to me through my tacky reality show (that I love…), and this evening as I’m passing by the living room television to go answer more emails I hear “On Tonight’s Program – Working Mom Guilt, when works cuts into family time.” I was intrigued long enough to answer emails from my phone while standing there instead of heading to my desktop. That is, until they started talking about “turning it off” and referenced exactly what I was currently doing. Emailing from my phone. Thanks God, I get it now 🙂 My new motto is to just go with the flow, live a relaxed life and enjoy the immense amount of happiness we’ve been blessed with.
Oh and have lots and lots of dance parties! They cure everything 🙂